Terrible Twos? It’s Just Big Feelings: A Parent’s Guide to Toddler Emotions

The “Terrible Twos” might sound daunting, but this stage is more about big feelings and emotional growth than being “terrible.” Your toddler is learning to express themselves, assert independence, and navigate their relationships—essential milestones in their development.

What’s Happening During the ‘Terrible Twos’?

🧡 Big Emotions
Toddlers feel emotions intensely but don’t yet know how to regulate or express them, leading to meltdowns or tantrums.

💡 Craving Independence
They want to do things themselves, like choosing their clothes or pouring water, but their skills don’t always match their ambition, causing frustration.

🎭 Developing Social Skills
Early social interactions involve parallel play and sharing, but cooperation and taking turns are still works in progress.

How You Can Support Your Toddler

🌱 Name and Validate Emotions
When your child is upset, acknowledge their feelings: “You’re frustrated because the toy isn’t working the way you want.” This helps them feel understood and teaches emotional vocabulary.

👐 Encourage Social Practice
During playdates or family time, model and encourage simple social skills like sharing, turn-taking, and saying “please.” Celebrate their efforts to reinforce positive behavior.

❤️ Offer Tools to Understand Emotions
The Montessori Feelings Kit can guide your toddler in identifying and managing emotions. It includes:

• 🖨️ A 23-page printable PDF for easy use at home or in class.
• 🧩 18 emotion cards and 2 posters featuring real-life photos for better connection.
• 🎨 Tools for role-playing, daily check-ins, and quiet reflection.

Final Thoughts

The “Terrible Twos” is an opportunity to guide your toddler through emotional and social growth. By validating their feelings, staying calm, and using tools like the Montessori Feelings Kit, you can help them navigate this stage with confidence.

How do you help your toddler with their big feelings? Share in the comments below! 😊